So, this happened!
When My Son Met His ‘Boyfriend,’ Darren Criss
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/when-my-son-met-his-boyfriend-darren-criss_b_3413346.html
Don’t Be Your Child’s First Bully
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/dont-be-your-childs-first-bully_b_3230752.html
This post is in support of all the fierce mamas who stand up for their kids, but especially:
- Sarah Manley: nerdyapple.com
- Lori Duron: raisingmyrainbow.com
- Kelly Byrom: designisgood.blogspot.com
I love you ladies more than my luggage.
This post is brought to you by who my editor calls “Angry Amelia”.
‘Accept’ and ‘Tolerate’ My Gay Kid? That’s Not Good Enough
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/accept-and-tolerate-my-gay-kid-thats-not-good-enough_b_3021002.html
If My Gay Son Realizes He’s Really My Straight Son, So What?
This post answers some of the questions I get (mainly from straight people) about my son.
Sorry, I am a little late, but here’s a new post about coming out…and how it’s changing with this new generation.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/a-new-coming-out-story_b_2534105.html
My new post is a snapshot of our family.
Raising a Gay Son Is the Same as Raising a Straight Son, Except When It’s Not
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/raising-a-gay-son_b_2433225.html
This is my last post of the year. I’ll see you in 2013.
Some Parents Might Not Want A Gay Kid, But I Do
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/some-parents-might-not-want-a-gay-kid-but-i-do_b_2297781.html
So, after much resistance, I wrote about this presidential election and why it is so important to me. I am much more emotional about it because of my oldest son.
And here’s what I have to say:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/i-am-voting-for-my-sons-president_b_2013407.html
My oldest son wanted a “Likes Boys” t-shirt, like the one Kurt wore in the “Born This Way” episode of Glee. We bought it for him, but not without some thought first.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/my-son-likes-boys_b_1927869.html
An incredible woman, that I am lucky enough to call my friend, posted on her blog tonight. It is such a beautiful post that I asked if I could share it here with all of you. She said yes. :)
http://www.designisgood.blogspot.com/2012/09/my-son-is-in-love-with-another-boy.html
The writer of this blog is on twitter: @designisgood
My son is in love with another boy
A few days ago Twirl revealed he is in love with another boy.
So here’s how it happened…I was videotaping Twirl getting Tornado to talk. He was getting Tornado to repeat words. “say C.J.” then he turns to me and says “Mommy, do you know who I am in love with? … CJ!!” And I say “ohh you are?” and he says “Yes, I have been in love with him since the day I first saw him on the playground” Twirl had a huge grin and was almost squeezing his knees to his chest in excitement.
His first crush. A boy.
Cory brought up C.J. over dinner and inquired to Twirl why he liked this boy. “I’m just in love with him, I liked his face and I played with him on the playground.” Both of us smiled. After the kids went to bed Cory and I were talking about it and Cory said “I remember that feeling” It’s true, I remember that too. I remember my first crush. His name was Matthew. It was also in kindergarten. I can’t tell you why it was him and not anyone else and I’m sure I couldn’t then. I was 6 and I just did. Same with Twirl.
So I already know what tons of people will say “how does he know he likes boys, he’s only six” I know this because of Amelia, who so amazingly writes about her son, who is also gay. This is how people responded and still do respond to her stories about her son. I do know that kids are brutally honest, they are not shy about saying what is on their minds. Twirl is telling us how he feels, and he is comfortable doing so because he knows we love him, all of him.
Being gay does not equal sex. Let me just say this one more time, being gay does not equal sex. He knows he likes this boy just like I knew I liked a boy in kindergarten. I didn’t have a crush on a girl when I was in kindergarten because I didn’t, and it really can be that simple. As adults I think we tend to complicate things that aren’t that complicated.
Does this mean we have boxed into being gay and he can never like a girl? Nope. This is new for all of us. I have no idea what happens ten years down the road, all I know is that right now this is what he is telling us. Right now he has a crush on a boy. Actually two, today he revealed he also has a crush on Carter, good to see he is keeping his options open.
Cory and I have been advocates of equality for a long time, when our son started liking more girly things then the stereotypical boy things we became bigger advocates. He writes about this more eloquently then I do. We have had our suspicions but have been careful to let Twirl lead the way. We will continue to let him lead the way whether it’s with C.J., Carter or Ella.
